Hanson & Hopewell's Best Bridesmaid Tips
So you’ve been asked to be bridesmaid, an official member of the bride tribe, a bride babe… Congratulations! If this instantly instills fear then don’t worry, we have outlined our top tips for being the best bridesmaid. Or perhaps you think you’ve totally got this in the bag, you were born to be Chief Bridesmaid, either way keep these gems of advice up your sleeve and your bride will know she made the right decision!
First things first, get excited!
Chances are your bride asked you to be her bridesmaid because you’ve always been there, for the trivial everyday and for the big moments, and they don’t get much more exciting than this! Know how special this is for her and her husband-to-be, getting married is a big deal, soon enough she’ll no longer be your wifey! Why not show her how excited you are for her and the upcoming celebrations and treat her to a Hanson & Hopewell bride to be gift box. Our Engaged gift box has it all, from a lovely ‘Bride’ printed bag, a handmade ring cone to keep her new rock super safe, as well as a custom-designed notebook to put all of her initial wedding ideas in one place!
It’s all in the detail
Take an interest in the detail, even if you really don’t think it matters what colour the napkins are, if it’s important to her then you should spare the time. Ask to be added to her Pinterest boards so you can see her vision and add any pins you think might help with her inspiration! Even the most laid back of brides will have her bridezilla moment and you’re the most likely person to get her through the craziness and help her see sense. When the wedding dominates most of your conversations it’s easy to get caught up in it too, don’t forget your friendship outside of the wedding, talk about the mundane, the guy who won’t text you back or the strange outfit your colleague wore yesterday - the break will do you both good and will help to keep your bride grounded.
The perfect dress
Wedding dress shopping is a great excuse for a super girly day out, your bride may well want to organise this herself, perhaps she even knows the exact dress she wants to try on. If the whole process of finding a dress is somewhat daunting for her though, then take the reigns - start off with brunch, what better way than to start the day than with a catch up over eggs benedict and mimosas! And call ahead to the bridal store and give them a heads up about your apprehensive bride and suggest a few dresses she might like. Last thing you want to do is turn up and the boutique assistants pounce on her like a pack of middle-aged women hitting the Next Sale! When it comes to the dress itself, remember to see it through her eyes - as a true friend you’ll know when it's the perfect dress for her even if you wouldn’t be seen dead in it yourself! And if she doesn’t find the perfect dress first time round, and chances are she won't, then fear not, regroup and repeat the process again…and again, and again.
In an ideal situation, your bride will allow you to reflect your own style with your bridesmaid outfit, even if it’s it down to your jazzy accessories or life long commitment to never wear your hair up! However, if this isn’t the case then don’t forget that the wedding day is not your day, you may have to fall in line and conform and just suck it up - after a few champagne cocktails let’s face it you won’t really care. And if you’re single, don’t worry that you won’t be the man magnet you usually are - being bridesmaid makes you instantly irresistible!
It’s her hen party
Listen to what your bride wants for her hen celebrations, don’t get carried away and arrange the perfect hen party for you. And if she doesn’t know what she wants then trust that you’re the best person to plan something you know she’ll love, you know all her favourite things as well as her pet peeves! As with every hen party there will be some form of drama, it’s inevitable with a big group of excitable hens, just don’t bring your bride into this, she doesn’t need to know about any guest list issues or hotel room dilemmas. Focus on spoiling the bride to be, our unique gift boxes are perfect to buy on your own or as a group gift. Our luxury Pamper gift box is full of pampering treats to help her relax and de-stress, perfect for her to take a few minutes just for herself and give her the will power (and mind space) to tackle those last-minute wedding plans.
The wedding day
You don’t really need us to tell you what to do on the wedding day, this is where your inner bridesmaid will take over and you’ll come into your own but just in case...try not to fuss too much, all that matters is that everyone is happy and enjoying themselves. Remember it’s your bride’s day so give people plenty of space and be available when you’re needed for photos or for rearranging her train for her photos. Be a social butterfly and talk to all the guests, the in-laws you’ve been warned about and the long lost cousin twice removed. When it comes to your hand bag supplies, think Mary Poppins and pack all the essentials, mints, safety pins, plasters, hair bands. If you can't fit all these things in your lovely embellished clutch then pop them in a cute little wash bag and tuck it in the toilets where you know where to find it.
Ideally you’ll be part of the last team standing - all being well you will literally need to be dragged off the dance floor and the groom will have to prise you off his wife at the end of the night! But even if this isn’t the case, suck it up - pop on those flats you also tactically snuck into your handbag and stick it out till the bitter end!
A thoughtful gift for the new Mr & Mrs
At H&H we love a good wedding and what we love most is enjoying all the little moments on the lead up to the big day and who wouldn’t. What most people find difficult though is the gifting part and as bridesmaid you will naturally be feeling the pressure to give the new Mr & Mrs the perfect gift. We’ve been there. The high street is pretty impersonal and there are certainly a lot of novelty gifts that lose their sparkle once the wedding day has been and gone. We love the challenge of creating one-of-a-kind gift boxes so why not speak to us about a unique handpicked gift for the newlyweds - freeing you up to help her with all those pre-wedding jitters and providing an extra special gift that will add to the magic of the occasion.
It’s not all over yet!
Once the wedding is over, by all means breathe a sigh of relief but don’t disappear - don’t forget that more than ever your friend may need for life to carry on as normal, she’s going to have a lot more time on her hands with a great big gap that planning her dream wedding filled so why not put a girly get-together in the diary as something for you all to look forward to!